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My partner and I were monogamous for over a year before we decided polyamory just might work for us. Of course we had our reservations about it. It\u2019s one thing to talk about it and imagine how it will work out, but it\u2019s quite another to act on it. The first time I saw her dating profile after we agreed to date others, I started crying hysterically. I wasn\u2019t sure I would be able to handle the jealousy I imagined I\u2019d feel. While we know that we might not always be dating or have other partners, neither one of us can imagine going back to monogamy for good after seeing how much stronger our relationship is since.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"People<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Unpacking Jealousy<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Polyamory means \u201cmany loves.\u201d In a society that teaches us that jealousy is normal, even positive, this can be a hard concept to grasp. I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s always easy, but there has been freedom in learning to let go of my possessive nature when it comes to my love life. We\u2019re taught that there can only be one true love, and that cheating is the ultimate betrayal. No, being polyamorous isn\u2019t cheating (at least, if you\u2019re respecting the agreements you\u2019ve made with your partners beforehand), and it\u2019s not \u2018getting permission to cheat\u2019. There\u2019s a lot more to it than that. We don\u2019t tell parents<\/a> they can only love one child and that any other child they have will take away love from the first, so why do we do this to our romantic relationships?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enhanced Communication<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Oh, there will be tons of talking<\/a>. Opening up your relationship, or if you\u2019re solo-poly, joining partners with other relationships will lead to lots of conversations about boundaries and feelings and much, much more<\/a>. My partner and I agreed that we will not share every detail about what happens on dates or in our other relationships, but we do share where we will be and with who, and we tell each other when a new person comes into our life. When I came home from my first date with someone new, the first thing we did was have a check-in about how we were feeling. I talked a little bit about how the date went, and then I marveled at how cool it was to be able to share this with her. I remember feeling that if I could talk to her about this, I could talk to her about anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Man<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

A Much Greater Support System<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Putting myself out there for dates and other potential loves has led me to a wonderfully large support system. Do you have to be polyamorous to achieve this? No. But it\u2019s opened so many doors for me that I wouldn\u2019t have put the effort into when I was monogamous. I know who to call for whatever I need, and I\u2019m glad to be able to be on the other end of the phone for partners who need me, too. It is a relief to know that all of my needs do not have to be met by one person alone, and vice versa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Better Sex<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

You know the saying \u201cAbsence makes the heart grow fonder\u201d? It\u2019s not always true, but it has been for me and my relationship. When she\u2019s out on another date or has a new love interest, I\u2019m reminded how lucky I am to have her. We all know there\u2019s a chance our partners could leave us for many reasons, even in monogamy there is no guarantee. I know my partner could potentially decide to leave me for someone else (although she wouldn\u2019t have to, I digress), but she doesn\u2019t. There is a very deep level of trust involved in our agreement to love others while maintaining our relationship, and this has improved our sex tremendously. Maybe a dash of jealousy, a lot of thankfulness and appreciation, and a hint of wanting to reclaim each other once more\u2026 whatever it is, the sparks keep flying!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Man<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
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Polyamory isn\u2019t for everyone. I know many people who are completely fulfilled by themselves or with their monogamous relationships. I don\u2019t think one is better than the other, I write about it simply because it has benefited me and I want others to know there are options out there. I used to roll my eyes at my poly friends and proclaim \u201cI could NEVER do that!\u201d, but now here I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Polyamory<\/a> has made my relationship stronger, and for that I am thankful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Strengthen Together \u2013 The Unfolding Journey of Polyamorous Empowerment<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Discover the transformative power of polyamory and how it can fortify the bonds of love, understanding, and trust in a relationship. SwingTowns welcomes you to a community where stories of strength and connection inspire and encourage. By signing up for your free account<\/a>, you\u2019re taking the first step towards joining a vibrant network of individuals and couples who are navigating the enriching path of polyamory. Begin your adventure with SwingTowns today, and explore how deepening your connections can lead to a stronger, more fulfilled relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“My husband and I joined Swingtowns a couple of years ago. We are new to this lifestyle and were a little apprehensive in getting involved in something like this, but we wanted to spice up our sex life and bite the bullet. We have met some wonderful respectful people and have become friends with everyone we met.” -Needtocome<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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