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4 Steps To Feeling Safe And Secure In Polyamory<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

1. Acknowledge and Accept Your Emotions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Recognizing and accepting one’s sentiments of insecurity is the first step toward overcoming those feelings. This is because pretending you don’t experience those emotions in the first place is not the same as attempting to rid yourself of those sensations in the first place. In point of fact, when people first begin to experience feelings of insecurity, they frequently experience feelings of shame about those feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This often kicks off a secondary trauma loop in which the person continues to berate and punish themselves for experiencing normal but unsettling feelings of negativity. In addition, criticizing and humiliating oneself is counterproductive to the goal of feeling safe and secure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The real murderer is one’s own sense of shame. Fear, worry, jealousy, and insecurity are not acceptable emotions. But shame. If the tribe does not accept you, the most basic rule of survival dictates that you will perish. For our forefathers, exile meant certain death. A feeling of shame is the awareness that one is not acceptable and does not belong. And it feels like it’s a matter of life and death to your brain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The worst thing is when you feel horrible about how bad you already feel. It is especially true for those who have a reputation for being exceptionally good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not the sensation that causes us guilt; rather, it is the shame we feel about the feeling. In the same way, it is never the error itself that causes problems; rather, it is the cover-up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. However, You Should Not Conclude Anything Just Yet!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Nevertheless, recognizing uneasiness is not the same as placing entire trust in your emotions. Or it might mean predicting that our worst fears would come true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our mental and emotional processes have developed over time to enable us to form snap judgments. In order to immediately recognize potential dangers. And determine who the predator is and who the prey is. Fear reactions are ideal for serving this particular goal because of how well they fit the bill.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what safeguards do we have against being devoured when we are out in the wild? The problem is that it does not work very well for contemporary relationships, which are less about life and death and much more about the nuances of the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don’t leap to the conclusion that the world is coming to an end just because you’re feeling anxious about it. Furthermore, the fact that you are experiencing negative emotions does not imply that other people have acted inappropriately (though it could).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take a moment to yourself, breathe deeply, and investigate those sentiments a little further rather than lashing out or doing something you’ll later come to regret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. When you are having negative feelings about something, ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way?”<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Let’s imagine you witnessed your lover flirting with someone else, and it made you feel uncomfortable. Why is it the case? What exactly does that sensation want you to know?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although sitting in this location may be unpleasant, you should try to do so whenever possible. Take your anxiety to its logical conclusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you concerned about finding a replacement for yourself? Abandoned?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irrationality and the need for privacy are two key factors that contribute to fear’s potency as a motivating emotion. Only when we force fear to defend itself and bring the arguments it uses to justify its existence into the open can we begin to strip it of its power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Steps To Feeling Safe And Secure In Polyamory<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

There are occasions when our worries are warranted. Every once in a while, there is a rational explanation for why we are so afraid of something. However, the bulk of the time, fear exaggerates the situation more than it actually is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And in situations where our worries are founded, it is preferable to acknowledge this fact and conduct ourselves according to the facts as they stand. Carl Sagan was quoted as saying, “It is far better to grasp the cosmos as it truly is than to stay in delusion, no matter how gratifying and reassuring it may be.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Identify the Underlying Assumptions, and Put Them to the Test<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Once you have a firm grasp on what your phobia is trying to convey to you, it is time to investigate any presumptions it may be harboring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The following are some of the reasons people who are monogamous transition towards polyamory, as well as some books that we recommend linked to them:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Affection has no net gain or loss. When you show concern for one person, it reduces the amount of concern you have for other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One person can’t fulfill all of our potential psychological and social requirements.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is imperative that we take whatever steps are necessary to preserve The Relationship, an entity that is both delicate and extremely significant. If this requires me to be completely isolated from everyone else, then so be it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If our love for one another is genuine and lasting, we will never feel the same way about another person. Ever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a problem if the strength of such love shifts over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If we find ourselves drawn to another person, it indicates that the love we feel for the other person is not genuine. Or we are an awful person. Either one of them. Probably in both senses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take away<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

People frequently worry that a new relationship will be more sexually satisfying than they have been in the past, in addition to these other anxieties. The fundamental presumption here is that people choose partners who are superior in the bedroom entirely on the basis of their own sexual abilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The precise procedure, as well as how you will move through it, may vary somewhat according to the problems that you have in particular. What’s crucial is to go through your reactions and evaluate them against the reality that you’re experiencing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Have any questions regarding the topic Steps To Feeling Safe And Secure In Polyamory<\/a>? Feel free to comment below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also Read: <\/strong>How to prioritize sexual health while practicing polyamory<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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