Category: Emotions

Why, darling, what green eyes you have! Five tips for supporting a partner who is feeling jealous.

One of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear from folks in polyamorous communities is this: A key to successful polyamorous relationships is not “never being jealous,” but rather owning your emotions, taking responsibility for them, and being committed to working through them. We spend a lot of time, and rightly so, talking about […]

Jealousy vs Envy vs Compersion

Cheers, Sexy People! So you want to embark on creating the possibility of having an open, ethically non-monogamous relationship, but you are concerned about the elephant in the consensual non-monogamy living room — jealousy. How will you cope? Jealousy happens. Simply experiencing jealousy is not the problem. The real problem is that our society teaches […]

I have heard people say that compersion is the opposite of jealousy but I’m not sure I agree with that.

I’ve heard of people describing it as a euphoric, passionate state. I’ve heard others describe it as something warm and familiar, like a mug of hot cocoa on a cold day. My one partner describes it as “happy sympathy,” feeling happy for your partner’s happiness. I have struggled with this particular emotion. Compersion does not […]

  • August 27, 2017
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The Science Behind New Relationship Energy

Your lips are locked with someone you’ve been wanting to kiss for a while now. You’re overwhelmed with sensation: their smell, their taste, the warmth of their body pressed against yours. Later on, after you say your goodbyes and start heading home, your heart may still be racing and your hands may still be shaky, […]