Why, darling, what green eyes you have! Five tips for supporting a partner who is feeling jealous.

Why, darling, what green eyes you have! Five tips for supporting a partner who is feeling jealous.

One of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear from folks in polyamorous communities is this: A key to successful polyamorous relationships is not “never being jealous,” but rather owning your emotions, taking responsibility for them, and being committed to working through them. We spend a lot of time, and rightly so, talking about…

What Is The Difference Between Jealousy, Envy and Compersion & What Triggers Jealousy

What Is The Difference Between Jealousy, Envy and Compersion & What Triggers Jealousy

Cheers, Sexy People! So you want to embark on creating the possibility of having an open, ethically non-monogamous relationship, but you are concerned about the elephant in the consensual non-monogamy living room — jealousy. How will you cope? Jealousy happens. Simply experiencing jealousy is not the problem. The real problem is that our society teaches…

Compersion: The Happy Sympathy

Compersion: The Happy Sympathy

I’ve heard of people describing it as a euphoric, passionate state. I’ve heard others describe it as something warm and familiar, like a mug of hot cocoa on a cold day. My one partner describes it as “happy sympathy,” feeling happy for your partner’s happiness. I have struggled with this particular emotion. Compersion does not…